Anonymous asked: Given that Alex Day is a rapist with an audience comprising mostly 13-18 year old girls, the whole 'audience' defense is actual bullshit. Plus majority of the allegations against these youtubers are about manipulation. So these victims say no, walk on the sidewalk thinking they are safe but get pressured and manipulated back into the middle of the street. Road safety is pretty black and white. Rape and sexual abuse comes in many shades of grey.
That’s what I was saying! It’s a ridiculous metaphor and it’s ridiculous (especially in this context) to say that someone can’t possibly have terrible, manipulative, victim-blaming attitudes just because young women and girls like him/her.
Also, to say that sexual assault/abuse is like road safety is to set up this idea that rape just accidentally happens to people, the way a totally well meaning person could just accidentally hit you if you were walking in the street and they didn’t see you. Abuse doesn’t just happen the way accidents do, it gets done by people on purpose. It’s entirely different from road safety, and yet we blame people who are abused much more than those who were hit by cars.
Okay, so there’s a fuckton of shit surrounding things that Carrie Fletcher have supposedly said ‘victim blaming’, and I think it’s something I need to talk about. First of all, if there were someone that irresponsible, who would be pro-victim blaming, then they would NOT have the audience Carrie…
That analogy is BANG ON! Bravo!
Lol @ ”if there were someone that irresponsible, who would be pro-victim blaming, then they would NOT have the audience Carrie has” as if that is a Thing.
I feel bad for CHF for everything that’s happened in the last month or so, but a bit more sensitivity and a bit less defensiveness would not be amiss
a lot of bdsm porn blogs have started following me since folks got excited about my seder post
my friend just canceled plans with me which is fine but she was like “I HATE to cancel on you because of a boy” which is silly because if you hate it so much don’t do it?
also i wish tumblr would let you keep nice and cheery messages even after you respond to them
They were not slaves. They were people. Their condition was slavery.
i’m sorry but you don’t get to decide to stop being my friend and treat me like crap and make me be the one to tell you to stop bugging me after you constantly bail and talk shit about me and lecture me about not bringing mutual friends into it as you are bringing them into it and show up at my work and then ignore me when we work together and then randomly start laughing at my jokes when you overhear me telling them to someone else.
To begin with, we must be wary of those who use the word “gratuitous” as an insult.
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